Today I have the privilege of celebrating the wedding of my good friend’s daughter. It is picture perfect. The wind is blowing a crisp, fresh breeze. The background is like a picture right out of a magazine. The music and laughter are echoing throughout the venue, traveling through the trees. Children are running and playing while the adults mingle.
As I sit here and look around, love is in the air. There is such a tangible feeling of happiness and joy lingering all around. People are full of cheer. It’s a celebration and joyous occasion.
Looking at the picture-perfect scenery, I begin to reflect on my past. If I could give one advice what would it be? I mean, after all, I have had three failed marriages. One would think, what could I offer. Well, I used to think the same thing until God showed me, love.
“Forgive always, but most of all, LOVE and LEAN on God.”
I would tell the bride and groom, “Forgive always, but most of all, LOVE and LEAN on God.” Make Him the foundation for your marriage.” I wish I would have known then what I know today. Marriage is hard. Marriage isn’t fair. Marriage is a lot of give and take. It’s a lot of compromising and giving of yourself. Sometimes giving and not receiving. Divorce is not an option rather, a lifelong commitment to cling to each other through the good and bad seasons.
There is nothing that can’t be forgiven. Pride must not even be in your vocabulary. There are so many things I would do differently. There are so many things I would never have done. However, the past can’t be changed and the cruel words spoken can’t be erased. I can’t undo the pain caused by unforgiveness. All I can do is ask for forgiveness and release the past. Most of all, share what I’ve learned and teach what not to do so that future generations endure through their marriages.
I wish the happy couple peace, unlimited forgiveness, and love that sees past the storm. God is good and if He is the foundation, then this is a fairy tale written only to be forever.